Last weekend, I plopped on my couch to watch some junk'o'tainment(as my husband puts it and what he watches is info'tainment, atleast he claims so)...Anywaysss!
On a saturday night, when I am home, I like to watch some absolute bollywoodish on TV. I love to watch the awards ceremony, just to look at who is wearing what. I tuned into Star Plus and it had this programme 'Tere Mere Beech mein' going on. For those who dont know what it is, its a chat show hosted by Farah Khan with new celebrities every week. She claims that the show is different. I agree to the extent that the set of the show is the worst in the history of sets. She tries so hard to be cool, comes across like a wannabe! Anywaysssss!!
This time the show had 2 guests Bipasha Basu and Shipa Shetty. It was good fun to watch them talk, though Farah seemed talk more than them. They talked about their lives and their parents also told on a video clipping how good a daughter they are. They were very proud of what-ever their daughters have achieved on their own, all by themselves. It was really good to watch UNTIL, a mention of how they are the beta of the house. That killed the show..atleast it lost my interest in it.
Before anyone jumps up to say that I am a feminist etc...blah...blooh, I would like to mention its not so. I infact am very happy with God's creation ..'The Man'..no issues with that..God keep up the good job, though a little up-gradation, with user friendly utilities is welcome once in a while and would be appreciated. Anwaysss!! Well, the whole concept of 'my daughters are like sons to me', or 'I always brought up my daughter like a son' or 'my beti is the ghar ka beta' just doesnt digest with me at all. I just dont understand why parents or for that matter some daughters also, think that the benchmark for bringing up daughters is to treat them like sons. Whats that!! Why is that the bar you set for yourself. It definitely doesnt mean that you brought up your daughter in the best possible manner, atleast if thats what you think.
I am the first born of the two daughters my parents gave birth to. They always brought us up like daughters. Ensured their safety, cautious of who their friends are, curfew times, no talking on phone for long hours, be back home before sunset :) (I know there was one such rule)..more importantly, they let us pursue what we loved the most in lives, made us good individuals, atleast they strived to be good examples and when I look back at my childhood, I feel great, so do my parents. Now after all this if my parents were to turn around and say yes, we have no issues we had daughters, and we brought them up like sons, it kills the whole thing. Isn't it. Daughters are not a 'Consolation' for not having had sons. So I will bring up my daughter as a daughter only and the so called benchmark..NOT FOR MINE LIL ONE.
hey jo that was realy touching and a real way to put forward things absolutely true u can not comapre sons and daughters ... nobody says my son is ghar ka beti then why the other way round . men can not produce offsprings and this is where all the arguments end ... wat say ? i am proud to b a women ...and hope all the other are too
ReplyDeletenice piece of work ....i agree with every word of u
ReplyDeleteproud mom of 2 DAUGHTERS
Hi jo...nice post...surely i cannot agree with you more on this ... if Ghar ki beti ...beta hai .. to phir Ghar ke bete ka kya .. ;)
ReplyDeleteBut Jo i remember you telling me that you sometimes wish you were a boy .. just to overcome the curfew times and not abide by the back before sunset times.... kuch yaad aaya ??
Given a choice my mom would have wanted me to be a girl (do you remember the anecdote ??) ..you and your little one are good the way your are ... and cannot imagine you as the beta of the house ... keep up the good work :)
I totally agree with you but still the truth remains that you are out and out feminist. You have used here what is called the first strike, rendering any rebuttal an exercise in folly. And by the way what upgrades would you like GOD to add in 'The Man'.......maybe, turning his hand into the egg-beater by pressing his elbow ??? It reminded me of a joke which i guess everyone must have read, its a long one and i will mail it across to you.
ReplyDelete@ Hopeful..
ReplyDeleteYes, as a teenager, I wished I was a boy just so as to get that extra time out
@ Adnan
ReplyDeleteWow, So typical. Hurt ur sweet lil ego, did I.
hey Jo,
ReplyDeleteIts really nice thought.100% agreed.
Ya, why should we feel proud for such a lie !!!
As when we say - my daughter is like my son/ I brought up my daughter like a son- means we admit indirectly - importance of Son - and in all the ways - a woman and a man - a daughter and a son- always differ - and differ does not mean higher or lower importance - it's differ....